Wednesday, July 3, 2013

Living Beautifully – 7 – Breaking Free

(For Podcast, TBD.  For ITunes version, click here)

We are continuing a series of talks on the book, Living Beautifully, with Uncertainty and Grace. 

“The most fundamental aggression to ourselves, the most fundamental harm we can do to ourselves, is to remain ignorant by not having the courage and the respect to look at ourselves honestly and gently.” 
--- Pema Chodron

Today, we continue, in Chapter 9, to plumb the depths of understanding  of the third commitment, the samaya vow, which is simply committing to staying with whatever arises,  not looking for the safe way out, not always choosing the easy option, the old way of coping.  It might at first feel like the worst possible of choices, but then we can begin to realize that this groundlessness can be our place of peace and calm, the uncertainty can become our reminder to stay curious and open. 

The Third Vow is called the Samaya Vow, which is described as accepting the world just where it is—it doesn’t mean we don’t take action, but it does mean that we respond from a place of being fully present in the moment.  Samaya is the Tibetan word for binding vow or sacred vow. 

It struck me that this direct seeing is what the Samaya Vow is all about—it is a commitment to not look away from those things that scare us.   We practice getting comfortable with a racing heart and sweaty palms, and ruminating thoughts. 

Pema Chodron’s teacher, Chogyam Trungpa Rinpoche, was asked what is enlightenment?  He simplied said “it is to experience the sound of the bugle or the smell of tobacco, as if for the very first time.”

This powerful process of staying present enables us to use whatever arises as a tool for awakening.  He went on to say, “it’s like oatmeal.”  You may love it or hate it, so you feel strongly about getting your share or avoiding it all together, but imagine the possibility of experiencing oatmeal as just oatmeal—as if for the first time.  That oatmeal could be an opportunity for enlightenment!

The two books I’m reviewing, Pema’s and Eckhart Tolle’s A New Earth, have converged on this single point.  We are NOT our ego.  I encourage you to see the possible truth in this statement:  “I am not my thoughts; I am not my emotions; I am not my sensations.  I am beyond all that. I am in the stillness that arises when consciousness slows down.”

This third commitment is also about being kind with ourselves and practicing as best we can in each moment.  It’s about being so fully present that you will hear and see and know what needs to be known, so that you can respond in the most skillful way, so that the future will take care of itself.  We practice not being so sure about our opinions, not so sure about our perception of ourselves or of the world.  We practice not believing everything we think! We practice having a sense of curiosity about whatever it is that arises.  Pema Chodron even emphasizes that we lean into it, like a scientist exploring the details of their experiment without a hypothesis, without a pre-formed conclusion….hmmmm….what is this?

And lastly, we make friends with whatever arises.  We see ourselves in all our glory and our not-so-glory, and practice a sense of caring and calm that embraces the reality of the moment, in order to response in the most skillful way. 

Zen master Dogen said, “To know the self is to forget the self.  To forget the self is to be enlightened by all things.”

So, let’s just imagine that we can take this samaya vow and practice seeing all things and all people and all circumstances, all thoughts and all emotions and feelings as opportunities for enlightenment.  This is not to say that we must put ourselves in harm’s way to practice enlightenment.  What is being said is that we can use whatever arises as a tool for awakening.  We can practice little by little, opening up a bit more each day or each week or each month or each year—whatever pace seems right for you.   

We work with our mind as best we can, and then take action with the goal of looking for the good in each and every person we encounter.

Today, we will practice the silent chant of Ham-So, going beyond our thoughts, emotions and sensations, to find the stillness.

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